I remember so clearly the day that the head-knowledge understanding of bearing another’s burden connected with my spirit. God has been faithful to reveal to me sin that my husband had concealed. On this particular day, I knew that I needed to confront him about something that he had not confessed from his past. And I was tired. I really did not want to deal with trial anymore, but for the first time my spirit sorrowfully ached for his spirit and it was no longer about me. My heart was broken for him.
I felt the overwhelming weight that he could no longer remain a slave to sin. It all had to be purged. He was never going to be free if he continued to hold onto things in an attempt to protect what was left of our marriage. Confession is a part of the true repentance that was necessary for his freedom and for our marital healing.
On this particularly hard day, a dear friend kindly pointed me to Galatians 6:1-10 and it has remained a regular meditation for me.
Verses 1-2 say:
“Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted. Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.”
When I am in the right frame of mind, I count it a privilege to walk through my husband’s burdens with him. You see, Christ is his ultimate “Burden-Bearer” and he has made me my husband’s suitable helper while on earth.
I cannot think of a greater honor than to imitate Christ. I am to restore my husband with a spirit of gentleness (not anger). I have an opportunity to help Jesus restore one of his beloved to a right relationship with him!
As I approached my husband that day, I prayed for our gracious Lord to give him the courage to fully confess and to allow me to be a safe place for confession to happen. To give me a softened heart to hear him… really hear him without the fear of how it might affect me.
Verses 9-10 say:
“And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up. So then, as we have opportunity, let us do good to everyone, and especially to those who are of the household of faith.”
I appreciate the encouragement that follows this call. It is hard to bear a burden, which makes it easy to feel weary and to want to give up.
Even Jesus was weary as he anticipated the crucifixion. In Matthew 26:39 he says, “My Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me; nevertheless, not as I will, but as you will.” But it also says in Hebrews 12:2 that Jesus endured the cross for the joy that was set before him. Our eternal relationship with him is that joy!
If I keep my eyes fixed on Jesus I can focus on the joy that is my husband’s restoration and somehow that burden gets a whole lot lighter!
Has God placed someone in your life that has a burden that needs bearing? Approach them with gentleness, understanding that the goal is restoration of their relationship with Christ. God’s word says that you will reap if you do not give up!
You are the ultimate bearer of burdens. Our help in times of trouble. It was for the joy set before you that you went to the cross.
Help me to remember what an honor it is to walk with my husband through life, which includes bearing his burdens. Continue to break my heart for him. To remember that sin is our enemy, not each other.
Help me to be hunger and thirst for your word, knowing that it will sustain and satisfy me. It will encourage me when I am weak and be a light to my path. Lord, you know how hard life can be, make my heart able to always say and deeply mean “nevertheless, not as I will, but as you will.”
Your Burdened in the Round,
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