Someone once told me that pornography is something only men struggle with. Shockingly enough, a male said it. I have come to learn that the world has the same narrow view of pornography consumption as that man did.
Food For Thought
Did you know that 1 in 3 visitors to all adult web sites are women?
How about that 9.4 MILLION women access adult websites monthly? Therefore, more than a quarter of women visit adult websites on a regular basis.
Statistically, in a room with 6 women, 1 of them would be addicted to pornography.
How can the world act like women don’t struggle with the same things men do? Sin is sin. Satan has no boundaries. Yes, the statistics show that a higher percentage of men struggle with sex related addictions. However, that does NOT negate women's struggle.
Ignoring the reality of who struggles with pornography addiction causes women to live in darkness, slavery, and bondage for decades. Women think they are alone and strange because the world says only men struggle with pornography consumption. My hope is that the statistics above bring affirmation to women that they are not alone in this struggle.
The New Narcotic
There is no argument against pornography being addictive. Research has shown that a brain viewing porn looks extraordinarily parallel to a brain on heroine.
Writer, Morgan Bennett said, "Neurological research has revealed that the effect of Internet pornography on the human brain is just as potent — if not more so — than addictive chemical substances such as cocaine or heroin."
There are 20 times as many people consuming pornography on a regular basis than heroin.
The addictive power of pornography can be worse because it is a type of polydrug. It produces the “high” effect through the release of dopamine and the “relaxing” effect through opiates. This enhances its addictive potency.
To make matters worse pornographic images cannot be metabolized out of us like chemical substances can. Those images are stored in the memory section of one’s brain. No form of medicine can erase them.
Pornography is a lie. It provides false exceptions and false ideals.
I encourage you to stop letting the pleasures of this world deceive you into thinking they will lead to fulfillment. Yes, in the moment, you may feel fulfilled and satisfied. However, the feelings that follow are far from fulfilling. You feel guilty, shameful, embarrassed, disappointed, frustrated, hatred, heartache, and sadness…the list goes on and on.
Freedom Is Possible
The American church has done a great disservice to those caught in habitual sin by encouraging methods of behavior modification. Rather, they should be encouraging one’s relationship with Christ.
2 Timothy 2:22, which commands us to “flee from youthful lust”, is a common verse known to anyone going through recovery. However, we can't neglect the second part of the verse, which commands us to pursue righteousness instead. So, we are to flee from sin, THEN run towards God and pursue righteous activity.
This concept is reiterated in Ephesians 4:22-24. It calls us to not only break old sinful habits, but to replace them with righteousness. "Righteousness" means thoughts, words, and deeds that please God.
Jesus is the ultimate abolishment of sin. As humans, we act out of the greatest desire in our heart. If my greatest desire is sin, then that is how I will live. It is the filter my decision-making will go though. However, if my greatest desire is Jesus, I will seek and savor Him above all else. It is only then that sin will no longer be appealing.
1. Create an environment in your community where confession of sin is encouraged and received well.
2. Strive for deep relationships, so hidden habitual sin will be noticed.
3. Don't be shocked when someone confesses to you that they are struggling with pornography.
4. When someone has confessed, don't encourage him or her towards a method of
behavior modification. Instead, push them towards Jesus. Encourage them to enjoy His presence.
5. Celebrate little victories with those in recovery from addiction.
Is what you're reading, watching, and listening to pleasing to The Lord Almighty?
Do they make you love Him more by drawing you closer to Him?
See You In The Round,
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