“Do these jeans make my butt look big?”
“I hate my double chin.”
“I look hideous today!”
“These pants are too tight. I have thunder thighs.”
“If only I was skinnier.”
“I feel like a size 64 today.”
A good chunk of the past 3 years of my life was been spent working as a stylist in a women’s clothing store. I’ll be honest, it hasn’t been my favorite job. But did I learn a lot?…absolutely.
Women are incredibly vulnerable when trying on clothes. No one actually enjoys the experience that occurs inside a fitting room. It ALWAYS leads to self-hating thoughts. Those thoughts are often expressed to me, as the employee. God has given me this opportunity to encourage my guests that their worth is not found in the number printed inside their jeans.
We Suck At Loving Ourselves
The vast majority of this generation of women has a very low view of self. Maybe it has something to do with wanting to avoid prideful thoughts, or becoming conceited. Maybe it has something to do with constantly being reminded of our flaws, not our beauty. Maybe is has something to do with the world forcing us to fit into their mold of beauty. Maybe it has something to do with the lack of forgiveness we extend to ourselves.
Regardless, I encourage you to make a change today. Begin to focus on what you like about yourself, rather than what you hate. Do this the next time (and every other time) you look into a mirror. I promise you it WILL make a difference.
Why the shift in focus?
Because, through belief in Christ’s saving work on the cross, you have been regenerated. You have not only been made new, but the new you is a better version of you. God makes us better. With that should come an increased opinion of self because, for the first time, our worth isn’t based on what we look like but what was done for us on Christ’s behalf.
Men > Women (in some things...)
Only 4% of women would describe themselves as beautiful. This means that in a group 50 women, only 2 of them actually considers themselves beautiful. TWO! That is devastating. (For these stats and more, check out Dove's “THE REAL TRUTH ABOUT BEAUTY: A GLOBAL REPORT.")
I think we would all agree that men generally have a greater opinion of self than women do. But why? I think this is because men do not base their worth/confidence on what they look like. There are more contributing factors to this, like their success, home, relationship status, and occupation.
Who Do You Think You Are?
Our identity does not lie in this world. Rather, it lies in who the Father says we are and how HE sees us.
He sees the masterpiece He designed (Genesis 1:27; Ephesians 2:10).
He sees our heart (1 Samuel 16:7).
He sees our strength and honor (1 Corinthians 4:10).
He sees our wisdom (Proverbs 31:26).
He sees as a victor (1 John 5:4).
He sees us as a treasured possession (Malachi 3:17).
He sees His beloved child (1 Thessalonians 2:13).
“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths [this includes towards yourself], but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”
Ephesians 4:29, parentheses mine
You are more beautiful than you think.
See You In The Round,
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