The church I am currently attending is doing a sermon series on marriage. When I first heard that this would be the topic, I thought, “Oh, great, what am I going to get out of this? I’m not married, engaged, or even in a relationship. How is this going to be relevant to my life? Do I really want to attend through this series?”
I heard promises from the pulpit that sermons would relate to everyone in the room, regardless of one’s marital status. I initially doubted, thinking that it was a sales pitch. During the first sermon of the series, I found out that I was wrong. A marriage series could, in fact, relate to me! In that first sermon, the pastor discussed the marriage of Jacob and Leah (and Rachel). To read the full story of the marriage of Jacob and Leah (and Rachel) read Genesis 29-31.
The pastor discussed how marriage is NEVER going to totally fulfill us. When we think that marriage will satisfy our every need, we compromise more than we should (Genesis 29:18); we become very demanding (Genesis 29:21); and we always end up dissatisfied (Genesis 29:23, 25, 31-35).
To really be fulfilled in life, we have to find the ONE, but who is really the one? Is it your spouse? No, in reality, God is your ONE, and your spouse is your TWO.
She conceived again, and when she gave birth to a son she said, “This time I will praise the Lord.” So she named him Judah. Then she stopped having children. Genesis 29:35 (NIV)
It was only after giving birth to her son, Judah, that Leah stopped seeking after the love of her husband. Instead she praised the Lord, realizing His love for her and accepting Him as her One.
I am not married, I am not engaged, and I am not in a relationship. I am single. The world makes a pretty good job of making me feel like an outsider looking in. Valentine’s Day is also known as Singles Awareness Day, I am at the age where I have watched most of my friends get married and start families. I went to a small, Christian, liberal arts college where you were the odd one out if you didn’t have a ring by spring.
The marriage of Jacob and Leah (and Rachel) is teaching me that I need to stop searching for the one. I have already found Him. God is my ONE, and if it is His plan for me to find my two, then that is wonderful, but for now, my One is enough.