“Now it came about…that the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as himself." (1 Samuel 18:1)
Have you ever experienced a friendship, where the connection was so natural and so deep that you felt like you shared one heart? Where you finish each other's sentences, read each others thought's, rejoice in each other’s good news, and cry over each other’s hardships as if they were your own? The verse above describes this level of friendship as “knitting of souls”, but a more contemporary (and feminine) term might be “heart-sisters”.
When you have a friend like this you can be completely and 100% yourself. There will be times where you can just laugh and be silly. But then there will be other times, where you may seriously disappoint, misunderstand or hurt one another. There will be times when you need to be vulnerable and share the deep dark corners of your heart. There will be times when you jump up and down for joy together.
There are just some things that other women will only understand. For me, I know that I can go to my husband with anything. But sometimes, it does not matter how many different ways I try to explain what I am thinking or feeling, he cannot relate. His mind just does not work the same way as mine. Certainly, he still loves me, comforts me, and encourages me, but there is something to be said for calling up one of my closest girlfriends and having her finish my sentence by saying, “I know exactly what you mean”.
In college, when my best friend and I heard the story Jonathan and David, we could not decide who was Jonathan and who was David. So we decided that we each were the Jonathan to each other’s David. If you are not familiar with the story, Jonathan was the son of King Saul, first king of Israel and David was an unrelated shepherd boy, whom God happened to choose to be the next King. As David’s friend, Jonathan loved him as himself, helped David escape death, and endured the wrath of his own father, King Saul. It strikes me most, however, that in everything Jonathan did, he helped David to become who God meant him to be.
So, when thinking about the friendships I have in my life, I have to ask myself — am I being like Jonathan? Am I walking with my friend, coming alongside her, helping her to be more like Christ? Am I helping her see who she is and all that she has in Jesus? In turn, I know that the friendship is not one-sided. Am I being vulnerable with my friends? Am I letting them care for me, just as I would for them? Or am I letting my stubbornness and pride get in the way?
I will end by just asking — who is your “Jonathan”? What have you done lately to be a “Jonathan” to your friends?
See You In The Round!